counselling psychology

Personality Disorders

Personality disorders are patterns of thinking, feeling, relating, and coping that can become deeply ingrained over time and may cause significant difficulties in a person’s relationships, emotional wellbeing, and daily life.

These patterns often develop as ways of coping with difficult early experiences, environments, or relationships and can affect how someone sees themselves, other people, and the world around them.

People with personality difficulties may experience challenges such as:

  • Intense or unstable relationships
  • Difficulties managing emotions
  • Fear of rejection or abandonment
  • Low self-esteem or unstable sense of self
  • Trust difficulties
  • Impulsive behaviours
  • Feeling emotionally overwhelmed or numb
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness
  • Self-criticism, shame, or anger
  • Difficulties feeling safe or understood in relationships

The term “personality disorder” can sometimes feel stigmatising, and many mental health professionals recognise that these difficulties are often closely linked to trauma, attachment experiences, and unmet emotional needs.

Importantly, personality difficulties are treatable. With the right therapeutic support, people can develop greater emotional understanding, healthier coping strategies, more stable relationships, and a stronger sense of self.

Therapy often focuses on helping people understand the origins of their difficulties, build emotional regulation skills, improve relationships, and develop greater self-compassion and resilience.

Online therapy and treatment for Personality Disorders

Treatment for personality disorders typically involves a combination of psychotherapy, and holistic approaches aimed at addressing the underlying trauma, building coping skills, and fostering resilience. Therapy modalities such as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT)dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic experiencing may be particularly beneficial in treating personality disorders.

Managing personality disorders is possible with time, support, and a commitment to healing. By learning to manage its effects, individuals can reclaim their sense of agency, rebuild their lives, and cultivate greater resilience and well-being.